First of all, I want to apologize for my inconsistency in blogging these past few weeks.
Combine a dying computer with a sick family and it’s definitely a recipe for BLOG KILLING! lol
But, I’m back now, family is healthy and the computer seems to be doing it’s thing. (We’ll see how long that lasts)
But, what I really want to talk about today is the sad state of family relations in today’s world.
Really, I began writing WILD MOMMY, for me. It was a way of allowing myself to share the things I felt were important in parenting. And possibly, to help anyone out there who wanted to become a better, more involved parent. I never intended to have this blog be more than my shared thoughts and ideas, but it became more,
As well as being an expression of my Wild Mommy Heart, it became an outlet for me to confront ISSUES I see plaguing the parenting world and our children’s futures.
Well, here’s my biggest issue, The BREAKDOWN of family. Families today do not communicate or connect like they used to anymore. The problem with a family that doesn’t connect or communicate is that is creates a kind of “Lost” feeling in young children. Without a strong family bond, children feel less grounded and less secure. It can also cause self-esteem issues and even mental health issues.
Now, Most people who discuss this issue jump right into unwed pregnancies, divorce and even homosexuality.
And what I want to say to all that is… WRONG!
There is absolutely NOTHING SPECIFIC about those things that CAUSE the breakdown of family.
I can see how someone might like to argue that point with me. Because there definitely is CORRELATION between those things and this epidemic of “LOST CHILDREN”. But the fact of the matter is, no matter what TYPE of family situation you have, YOU STILL HAVE FAMILY.
What truly matters is the involvement and love AMONGST the family.The problem I see with a lot of families today is there simply is NO INTERACTION.
So many families out there are suffering simply because parents are too “busy” to stop and talk to their children.
As a parent, it is YOUR JOB to guide your child. And that means STAYING ENGAGED!
Too many times I see kids being parented by TV or TABLETS, Parents who have NO IDEA what their children are doing and children who are just, AWFUL. I have no other way to put it. I see children who have NO RESPECT for adults, no concern for other people around them and to top it off, they have a sense of “entitlement” growing because of society. It’s an UGLY combination.
But all of it can be stopped simply by BONDING your family.
As parents, we set the stage for how connected we want our children to be with us. If you put effort into them, they WILL return the effort and stay connected with you.
And when tough issues come up, TALK TO YOUR KIDS.
Tell them EVERYTHING about the world, because ONE DAY they will be in it ALONE!
It’s a parent’s job to make sure children have the best assets possible when they enter into the world.
That means informing, encouraging, loving and supporting them. Which means you have to stay involved CONSISTENTLY!
Not only stay involved, but you have to encourage a BOND between yourself and your child, as well as encourage a BOND between grandparents, siblings, cousins, etc. You want to create a STRONG root system for your child to be able to get everything possible from life. And that strong root system allows them a sense of security in the world, as well. They will always know they have support and love, which will create in them a very STRONG character foundation.
By creating that strong foundation, you not only will have a child with a feeling of security, but it will actually BOOST your child’s self-esteem. A child who knows that at home they have close, loving, bonded relationships, will then go out into the world a HEALTHY, LOVING person, who feels secure in themselves. They will make better decisions on LOVE, because they will have knowledge of what a true BOND means. But, it’s more than that. You actually take some of the sting of REJECTION away, by having a strong family bond. That root system allows a child to explore relationships, while always having the security of a CONSTANT, UNENDING bond. So, when/if they experience heartbreak, the love of their family can actually help to ease the pain.
It is just simply the most important aspect of parenting.
As parents, we MUST provide that love, support and BOND that will help our children to become WHOLE, confident, secure adults capable of sharing and HEALING their hearts.
Join me next time as we go back to the MOMMY BLUES and take a look at Misbehaving: Not listening. We’ll begin by identifying the different reasons children do not listen, then I’ll share some of my favorite tips for how to CHANGE that!
Until Next Time,
Wild Mommy MC